What is it?
Self esteem is the extent to which you value yourself. Good self-esteem is important for us to function in the world. Our self-esteem is made up of how we view ourselves physically (our image), how we rate our abilities and talents and how we evaluate our successes and failures. Self-esteem is about loving ourselves despite our human flaws and imperfections. It is about accepting ourselves just as we are.
|Low self-esteem is a feeling that most people experience at some point in their lives. This feeling is usually transient and the individual can pick themselves up again and move on.|
Deeply rooted feelings of low self-esteem can feel like “I am not good at anything”, “ I am a failure”, “I am not worthy” etc. It is when you cannot recognise your own value as a person.
What are the symptoms?
The signs of low self esteem are different for everyone. They could include some of the following:
- not feeling good enough
- not feeling likeable
- not feeling successful
- feeling anxious, tense or unhappy
- comparing self negatively to others
- feeling powerless
- needing lots of reassurance
- being easily influenced by others
- being withdrawn or uncommunicative
- being over-sensitive
- blaming others for my own problems or failures
Taking a holistic approach can be effective when working with self-esteem. What this means is looking at your physical, emotional, cognitive and spiritual life to see what needs to shift in order to improve your self-esteem. For example, this could include identifying and re-evaluating your negative self-beliefs, reviewing your value system, developing coping strategies and helping you develop and build relationships. In some cases your low self-esteem could be as a result of a difficult past, this may need to be worked through. Your diet, exercise, mode of relaxation will form part of the treatment.
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